Wes spoiled the girls this weekend, and took us on a getaway to Sea World. Taylor was just getting over a summer cold, but had a blast seeing all the attractions. We stayed overnight in a beautiful hotel that looked like it was straight out of Hawaii, and had a king size bed with a beautiful view. This hotel was so gorgeous! We had waterfalls, and coy ponds, and even witnessed a couple getting engaged. Daddy did good. Every picture we have of Tay is pretty funny. She's starting to smile on command, and it looks like she's trying to catch flies in her mouth.
Taylor makes me laugh everyday. Today she sang almost the whole theme song to "Big Comfy Couch," and danced around the living room. However there's a side to Taylor that's been coming out more and more as she approaches the terrible twos. Her evil twin, Taylor The Terror, makes an appearance at least once a day. She's whiny, a total drama queen, and worst of all SHE HITS ME! Wes and I've talked about our approach to discipline, and we decided a long time ago that hitting or spanking just wasn't a good strategy........ But I went back on my word a few days ago. While I'm changing her diaper, she decides she wants to get up. I tell her to lie back down. Taylor says, "I kick mommy." I say, "No kick mommy," and give her the look of death. The little bugger then kicks me in the face and yells, "No mommy!" I lost it. I smacked her little bare thigh. She gave me the saddest look I've ever seen, and burst into tears. I felt like the scum of the Earth, but still thought I was justified in spanking her. It was like she premeditated the whole thing! Methodically thought it out. Weighed the pros and cons, and still chose to do it. I don't think I'll spank again though. I'm not sure it taught her anything, and I just can't take the guilt. So Taylor continues to hit me when she doesn't get her way, and I'm taking her by the hand and firmly saying "No hit." I try to look sad so she gets the idea that it hurts......What to do? How do you discipline a toddler? Batman had the Joker. Superman had those evil dudes in black spandex with kryptonite. I, as it turns out, have Tay as my arch nemesis. Check out the video below. She hits me, for no reason, and then attempts to act cute saying, "Where's Tay Tay?" Stinker!Advice please.
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Most of the time I just have to count to myself with Kyle or totally get creative. Yes..2's are terrific and I've had the best times with Kyle but they are terrible too and know every little button. Distraction I still think is the best tool. Quickly talk about something else..she talks about kicking and you start singing "big comfy couch" and she'll start singing and totally forget about the kicking.
I have used both books on both boys, "The Strong Willed Child" and "Dare to Discpline" in some circles they are controversial but they have worked very successful for us. Both books were my mom's that she read when I was two and kept them for me. I have followed both books to the T. But my boys are extremely strong willed.
Also the book, "One, Two, Three, magic" I have heard is sucsseful, especially if you don't agree with spanking.
With anything I think consitency is the key with any method you go with. Good luck she and you will get through this sooner than you know it.
What a great weekend, I would love to get away. San Diego is so nice.
Recently Chloe has done similar things. I am now giving her time outs. I know she seems young, but it has worked. I tell her if she does whatever she is about to do she will have time out in her bed. I really don't want to make her bed be the bad place, but I don't have a time out chair yet, and I think she would have too much fun in a chair. Once she comes out of time out, which is only like 1-2 minutes I tell her what she did to get time out and why we don't do what she did.
It has worked, but I am worried it won't have the same effect after a while, and then I am afraid she will be more difficult going to sleep, especially when we switch to a normal bed where she can just get up and out.
We use time out with Lauren and it works like a charm. We put her where she can still see Chad and I playing and having fun without her. You just have to be consistant. I think that that is the key. She needs to know that every time she hits she goes to time out. We even do time out at family parties and the stores. Now all I have to do is threaten time out and she is an angel again.
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